I wrote this about 2 years ago when my dad went to an Emmaus retreat in Arizona. I wrote this letter so he could read it during the retreat but he never did. My dad goes to Crossroads United Methodist Church and a member named Max sponsored my dad to go to this retreat. So now it serves as a belated Father’s Day letter. I know that there are many other families that are going through the same things. I going to put this on my dad’s desk and see if he reads it I doubt it but maybe it could serve as words of encouragement and acknowledgment for those families that face such difficult times.
This is a letter from Harold a Christian who loves Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior who loves our Heavenly Father God Almighty who loves the Holy Spirit. I am writing this letter to my dad Bertus.
3 Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ. 1 Corinthians 1:3 (NIV)
I was so happy and excited for you when Max told Mom and I about you were going to the Emmaus retreat. Max asked mom and I that we should write letters to you to read while you were there.
I know things are stressful here at home. Mom has many health problems that are difficult to watch and understand as a husband. As a son who takes care of her every day I see many things that we have to face together as a family. Its unfortunate Mom will not get up and do her exercises she has been non-compliant with her health care for too many years now. As a result her arthritis is best dealt with symptomatically we can only deal with her pain when it arises. Mom also shows signs of the beginning stages of Dementia the inability to remember things, irritability, incontinence, anxiety and anger. It doesn’t help that Mom has a history of abusing pharmaceutical narcotics but I suppose that was to be expected with her arthritis. The many times when we picked her up from the floor because she had fallen or had the fire department come out to help us put her back in her chair. All those time we cleaned her up and parts of the house because she soiled herself. All the times mom cries and says “I’m trying” or “I’m sorry”. Needless to say we have lots of problems here at home but I have found great comfort and strength in our faith.
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NLT)
I know that this is not how you envisioned your retirement that you had dreams of you and mom doing things together and traveling the world to see distant families and enjoying life.
The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps. Proverbs16:9 (ESV)
I know it’s difficult even as I struggle with my frustration with her at times but don’t be angry at mom she is just doing the best she can.
I am thankful that you are attending this retreat that you are growing spiritually in our faith and in the brotherhood that you have been a wonderful spiritual leader in our family. I am thankful for prayers answered.
2 But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: 2 that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience; Titus 2:1-2 (NKJV)
Always remember that I am here for you and I will help in any way possible. I will continue to take care of mom and help you in any way possible. You are my dad and I am your son, a Christian brother, part of the brotherhood, a part of the body.
If Mom could write a letter to you she would say:
I love you
I need you
I’m trying but I don’t know what’s wrong with me
I love you
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:24(NIV)
I love you Dad and Mom.
23 May the grace of the Lord Jesus be with you.24 My love to all of you in Christ Jesus. 1 Corinthians 16: 23-24 (NLT)