The Greatest Gift

For a year now I have been taking care of your dad. Your dad and I have talked and laughed at great many things. We have prayed together and talked of God and of God’s love and wisdom. I may not know your dad well but I truly believe that these are the words he would speak to you on this Mother’s Day.

My Dearest Aileen,

I love you so much and I am proud of the woman you have become. I know I seem so mean at times but understand I do not lash out at anger at you but at my cancer. I’m scared and I don’t know what to expect.

As Christians we are taught about the three things we should always have in our heart…faith, love, and hope. I have faith, love, hope, and the path I must travel upon in God’s plan. Even as I lay here in this bed with my eyes closed and unable to speak I am still doing God’s work.

There are so many things I wanted to tell you but I can’t now because my confusion is overwhelming. The words I want to say are not the ones that are coming out of my mouth. If I could I would say:

I love you

I love Mercedes

I am proud of you both and wish I could be there at Mercedes graduation

I love you and the way you take care me.

Be strong in your faith. God will give you the strength and comfort that you will need.

I remember the times I watched the little girl play and watched her grow into the woman you have become and smiled as a proud father at all your accomplishments.

You work hard to take care of this family including me.

You are a wonderful mother

You are a wonderful daughter

When you come home from work I reach out to you with my hand and place your hand in mine and I am comforted by your presence and love and I am not as scared. Thank you for taking care of me and thank you for being my daughter.


Happy Mother’s Day to my Wonderful Daughter,

Love Grandpa





I wrote this Mother’s day letter for Aileen whose father has been battling cancer for the last 15 months. I have been taking care of her father for nearly a year now and his health has declined dramatically over the last 6 weeks. I put together all the information I could remember into one short letter of the things he never said but wanted to say to his daughter. After having proofed read it for the third time I realized something.

As parents we want the best for our children and for us Christians that includes our faith in Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior and our Heavenly Father God Almighty. I once thought that I would give my daughter the Holy Bible when she was fourteen. I then would require that she read the bible in its entirety at least four times before the age eighteen at which point I would give my consent to go to college away from home. I was going to highlight some selected scriptures with yellow highlight but realized my daughter would probably laugh hysterically and show her mother what I had done when she saw that all the pages of the bible were highlighted in yellow. I could selectively highlight the passages that I thought would be important to my daughter but I also know that there are other scriptures that speak to us at one time or another in one way or another which results in my indecisiveness and my willingness to highlight the entire bible. The point here is that we as Christians wish to teach our sons and daughters about Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior and our Heavenly Father God Almighty. Why? Because we want to show them what Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior and our Heavenly Father God Almighty has given us…love. And to make my point I give you 1 Corinthians 13.



1 Corinthians 13

New King James Version (NKJV)

The Greatest Gift


1 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned,but have not love, it profits me nothing.

4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, it is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.For we know in part and we prophesy in part. 10 But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.

11 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.12 For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.

13 And now abide faith, hope, love these three; but the greatest of these is love.